Sanctity of Life Sunday

It has been 15 years…..years of joy, years of tears.

(I had every intention of writing this last week, before the actual day was here.  But finally, now I have time to put both my thoughts and memories on paper.)

The phone woke me between three and four in the morning.  The voice on the other end was familiar and scared….crying.  Will you come, please?

Six and a half hours later, I was back home.  As I sat in a tub of very warm water with only a small candle for light, I was trying to relax, trying to process my day.  I had already missed church.  The next thought grabbed me….it was Sunday, January 19^th, Sanctity of Life Sunday (1997).

I had wanted to do something meaningful.  Something to make a statement on this day!

Our country church was small.  Other churches all over the United States, maybe the world, were planning events to call attention to the fact, that life, all life is sacred.

Some were placing blue and pink crosses on their church lawns…others were planning on hosting afternoon rallies.  The news and been full of plans for upcoming events……events I would miss, was missing.  How I had wanted to be a part of such a special exercise in celebrating life!!!  But our church was small…rural, more elderly than young people….not that I was all that young at 49.  We had already raised three wonderful kids, two daughters and a son.  The year before, we had opened our hearts and home to an infant boy….another son.  We were busy and life was something that needed to be celebrated!

My thoughts began to drift.  I was so stinking tired!  Why wouldn’t God allow me to be apart of Sanctity of Life Sunday?  I closed my eyes….relaxed, soon I was really drifting.  I dozed off.

I’m not sure if it was the water getting cold or the smell of burning wood that woke me.  But for the second time that day, I woke with a “start”. 

The smell of wood burning….I had placed the candle on a shelf that set too close to the shelf above.  It had scorched the paint!  Oh well, you had to be lying in the bathtub, looking up to see the damage…..thank goodness. 

What was I doing?  Oh yeah, memories of thoughts of Life….that’s where I was.  “Lord, that would have been so awesome just to be apart of what was taking place today.”

It was quiet.

Then, that still small voice, “Really, Cheryl?  Where were you early this morning?”

…..hospital

“Why were you there?”

…..because “Dee” called, she was in labor and scared

“Do you remember what happened?”

…..yes, I sat with her through labor, until the baby was born

OH!!!  (I got it!)

Our third son joined our family on Sanctity of Life Sunday…..because “Dee” was the birth mother of our second son, the baby boy who had been home with Papaw while I went to the hospital.

Three days later, we brought home a beautiful baby boy!  We call him “Teamer” because Elijah (his older brother) couldn’t pronounce his name, therefore dubbing him Teamer.  So, Teamer it was and Teamer it is!

Taken two years ago, Teamer on the left with the fish (of course) and Rusty, our nephew.

He is the “heartbeat” of our home, always finding something to make us laugh or cry!  He loves anything boyish and outside!  Night and day different from Elijah (our electronic wiz), Teamer is rough and tumble.  Always into something, usually a mess, he loves to fish and loves to hunt.  He is an inventor, a builder and a budding mechanic. 

 Feeding the fish

 

Papaw has said, "Elijah may draw up the plans for rockets one day, but Teamer will fly those babies!"

Life is never dull and life is always sacred.

 Blessings,

Cheryl

Days 7 and 8 of Our 65 Day Journey

Days 7 and 8

Boy, have I missed being here the last couple of days!  I have lots to share, but before I forget,

Gooseberry Patch is giving away a free cookbook for the holidays!

I don't know how long the giveaway will last, so hurry and get yours!

Gooseberry Cookbook Giveaway!

This is a download!  

Another blogger friend said the Savory Pie Recipe section is awesome!

Last Wednesday, I said I was thankful for F*A*M*I*L*Y.  Can

I take that back?  Just kidding!  But they are the reason I have not been able to blog.  Wednesday night (late) I tried to write a second post for that day, since the first one was very short.  I typed, "Day 6 ~ Second Time," before I started falling asleep at the computer.  It was only 10:20 p.m.!  Very strange for a gal who is normally up all hours of the night, but I was exhausted!

We have a situation that involves two of the grown children, one changing jobs and needing "help" because of her new schedule, until she gets moved and the kids are in a different school....etc.  The one that agreed to help, changed her mind after two days....so, guess who had to ride to the rescue?

LIFE can be complicated at times, especially in a big family, 

because there are more people to deal with consider!

Oddly enough, what I had planned on writing about yesterday was "Avoiding Stress" over the holidays!

(Just goes to show you, life has away of biting you in the butt rear, sometimes.)

Never-the-less, I am going to write about STRESS!  Because, it can ruin not only your holidays, but your life, if you allow it!

We have three grown children with families.  They have given us the joy of becoming grandparents eleven times!  When the youngest of the three was a junior in high school, we acquired two little boys.  We received one when he was three weeks old, the other when he was three days old.  We have never been empty-nesters...not even sure what that would look like around here.

Our oldest daughter was married in May of 1998 (she and our sil having given us four beautiful grands), oldest son was married in November of the same year (he and Melissa have blessed us with three "cotton top" grands).  Our middle (grown) daughter gave birth to our first grandson in September of '98.  Shawn was 10 1/2 weeks early.  Stephanie, while not married, was in a very abusive relationship.  It took another baby (grandson) and five more years to get her out of that relationship.  (Since then, she has met a much nicer guy, and while they are not married, they have given us two lovely little curly top grandchicks!)

Stephanie's boys have always lived with us....giving us four boys in the house....presently their ages are:

Elijah (adopted) 15, Teamer (nickname, adopted) 14, Shawn (grandson "the premie" who is now 6') 13 and 

Jailen 8 y/o (grandson).  

*I know*  Early 60's, three teenage boys in the house, along with an 8 y/o.....I'm CRAZY!  You're right!

I'm telling you all of this to let you know, STRESS and I are on a first name basis...we know each other well.

The first few years of my own marriage, my mother demanded we spend the holidays with my side of the family.  My mother-in-love was very understanding and I know (now) very disappointed at times.  I made up my mind, I would never demand our children spend the holidays with us.  If they did, great....if not, be blessed ~ and enjoy yourselves. 

It isn't always easy to "appear" to be gracious.  There have been times I would have really loved to have them here with us.  Fortunately, we live close enough, we see all of the kids often.  DD#1 lives about an hour away, the other two live about 20 minutes away.

So here is what we do....on Thanksgiving I cook.  We normally have company....our company consist of friends who would normally be spending Thanksgiving by themselves.  Sometimes, some of the kids come by in the evening to "graze" and enjoy dessert and coffee.

Saturday after Thanksgiving we cookout, weather permitting, or I cook homemade chili, along with a huge pot of beans.  The kids bring trimmings for Frito pies, etc.

Christmas Eve we cook something special for the boys here....they choose.  Sometimes, it is homemade pizza, but regardless they get to choose.

Christmas Day, we cook a traditional Christmas Dinner and the boys help cook!  (They are getting pretty good at this, too!)  It is "whoever wants to come, COME"!

January 1st, we celebrate Christmas with all the family.....menu varies from year to year....sometimes Mexican, Italian, sandwiches and finger foods...etc.

The four boys love it....between Thanksgiving and January first, it seems like there is constantly something happening or getting ready to happen.  They have already asked if we can celebrate Hanukkah this year....it is a special time, too!  (This year, I believe it begins on December 21.)  They are not fooling me...I know they are thinking about the possibility of receiving eight gifts (one per day) over Hanukkah.  But, I know they also have learned the historical background of Hanukkah and it's Biblical roots....so this is good!

For ten years, this has worked well for us!  Some years, I do not buy a gift (outside of the boys'), until after Christmas.  The sales are wonderful!  My budget loves being able to wait until the sales to shop for the grands!  Plus by then, I know what they have already rec'd and what they really wanted they didn't get...or what they still need.

I have much less stress!  But it is a choice!

So, this is my advice....however you want to celebrate the holidays, make it personal to fit your family.  Don't be locked into a schedule because the "world" does it a certain way.

The foods you serve should reflect things you and your family enjoy!

Remember others, who may not have family.

Last year, the two oldest grand daughters were here on the 23rd of December.  With a little supervision from me, they baked homemade cinnamon rolls for everyone (up and down) on our road (the mile section) and made cinnamon rolls to take home for their own family's.  They had a ball!  Fun they don't get to have at their other grandmothers'!  We made lots of memories!!

Make your holidays stress free!  

Your inter-self will embrace you for it!

Thursday ~ Thankful for "community".  We love our neighbors!

Friday ~ Thankful for the "WORD" of God.  It gives the "peace that passes all understanding."

Be sure and join Shawn and add your own Thirty Days of Thanks!

Today is Friday and many of us are praying for each of you!  If you have a special need you would like us to pray about, leave a note in my comments or you may email me...or you can contact Angela, who's information is in my sidebar!

Whatever the need, know your Heavenly Father desires to meet that need!  HIS love is awesome!

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Hey, even with all of the extras here the last two days, I managed to scrub and rearrange three of the shelves in the bathroom, worked more on the kitchen, started my list for Thanksgiving and did a few other things!  Knowing I am going to be "reporting" to you all helps to keep me focused!  Love it!

Blessings,
Cheryl